“Many of us grow up feeling as if we are searching for something, or that something is missing from our lives. In reality, what we’re looking for has been here all along, waiting for us to reach out and connect—to initiate that friendship. ”
Have you ever known someone who had a near-magical ability to make you feel good about yourself? Who gives you an inspirational kick to become more? Your soul is like that friend. When you sense the presence of your soul, you sense your own goodness, your own worth, and your own rightness.
If I were to describe your soul to you like a friend, it might sound like this:
I have a friend I’d like you to meet. He has quite a presence, and is so attractive you’ll be drawn to him the moment he shows up. Some say he’s an observer type. He’s loyal, and he’ll never leave you (and I mean never). When you’re with him, you have a sense of clarity and are filled with the desire to be alive.
Wouldn’t you want a friend like that in your life? You already have one
Searching for Your Soul versus Adventuring with Your Soul
When you are soul-searching, you know your soul is there, but you do not yet fully sense it as a presence inside you. Soul adventuring starts when you experience the presence of your soul. You feel it as a powerful friend living inside you, giving you the foundation to create in a way that brings you and the world around you joy.
For a decade I practiced self-help, self-development, and spiritual techniques without sensing the creative presence of my soul. During this time, I was soul-searching. I knew my soul was there, yet I hadn’t connected with it. I worked with Reiki, angels, yoga, meditation techniques, and so on, but still I felt alone. The sense of aloneness grew as I realized I would not have a family of my own and I fell into a state of despair. My journey to heal myself shifted from experimenting with techniques and energy work to a deep dive into the world of my own soul.
Finally, an inner voice arose inside me and said, “If I’m alive, there must be a force that wants me to be here! And, if I’m to find happiness in this life, then that force will take me there.” (I’ll share more about this realization in Lesson 5.) Everything I had learned while soul-searching finally came together. For the first time I sensed the individuality of my soul, its relationship to me, and its desire to be me. That’s when the friendship started.
Like any good relationship, my friendship with my soul is a balance of constancy and growth. It’s always shifting as I learn more. It’s not as if once I “met” my soul, that was it and now I always feel the full connection. Instead, I find myself in a sort of back-and-forth between searching for my soul and letting my soul show up and adventure with me. It feels a bit like hide-and-seek, at times.
Maybe you experience something similar. There are moments of clarity and freedom, then moments of regret, doubt, guilt, and reluctance. I like to imagine that our soul exhales us into the field of false beliefs and untruths that are the hallmark of our existence here as humans. It is part of our experience to feel in the dark during these times. Then, when you reach out, your soul inhales you into its presence, and things are illuminated and you feel clarity and freedom. But eventually, there is another exhale. You spend a moment in the dark, but then you reach for the light or the truth. When you reach out, your soul inhales you into its presence of clarity and freedom.
Many of us grow up feeling as if we are searching for something, or that something is missing from our lives. In reality, what we’re looking for has been here all along, waiting for us to reach out and connect—to initiate that friendship. Whether you are in a state of doubt and despair or plodding along fairly happily in life, you can recognize, then grow your friendship with the unique, eternal force behind your creation—your soul.
As you deepen your relationship with your soul, you learn to create in alignment with its purpose. You become the you that contributes to the evolution of consciousness on the planet. Understanding the “Soul Cycle” (see the next section) will help you align with your creative magic.
About the Author: Leigh Ann Kittell is a life coach, yoga teacher, and intuitive empath with an unquenchable curiosity about how to transcend the challenges of everyday life through self-development and modern spiritual practices. After a miraculous encounter with a Reiki master, Leigh Ann dedicated herself to learning as much as she could about esotericism and healing, with the goal of understanding the mechanisms through which she had healed, and how she could help others do the same. Leigh Ann teaches and works with individuals and groups internationally, sharing practices on connecting with higher forms of guidance, and helping people sense and develop a relationship with their soul. Born and raised in the United States, Leigh Ann has lived in Europe for the last twenty years, giving her a unique, global perspective on modern spirituality. She is a Martha Beck Certified Life Coach and brings more than two decades of research to her fresh approach to the topic of enlightenment.